 ⚠️ Trigger warning ⚠️ This may make some question their beliefs.
I have recently discovered (or finally admit to the fact) that I don’t tolerate certain people very well... those who refuse to drop their harmful patterns that harm others. I’m uncomfortable around those who frequently project their unhealed stuff out onto others and situations, leaving a mess in their wake without a care, or apologize with the expectation that they'll be exonerated from consequences without having to do the work on themselves. F* you! 🤬 Although I really do also have sympathy for and understand the pain of the unresolved pattern you’re in......But mostly just F* you. I'm sorry for what you went through, do your work to claim and clean up your mess, don’t keep passing it on to our beautiful shared world that you shit all over, and then call stinky. OWN. YOUR. PART. Now, many people believe that it's not spiritually evolved to allow ourselves to feel this way. After 2 decades of developing myself to reflect the highest expression of my potential, I've come to a new conclusion...it's not healthy to dismiss the feelings that come up when we get triggered. It's not ok to judge our own resistance to someone's energy as if we should be better at withstanding their negativity. Our bodies are wise, and there's a difference between being unstable due to unhealed emotions from trauma being activated when triggered, vs intuiting someone else's negativity and upholding boundaries so to protect yourself from it. It is LOVING to honor the space in between you and others with boundaries. If you frequently lose yourself in relation to another, it's healthy to claim your power by managing who gets to share that space with you. As vibrational beings, we are sensitive to the energies of our environment. If someone is having a hard time containing themselves, it's ok to not want to be around them. Send them love, pray for their best outcome, then if it's warranted and the situation demands it, communicate your position in a loving non-threatening way. Of course we are always a work in progress. I will not pretend that I do not have to stay diligent in my Self-Mastery practices. But I'm not going to spiritually bypass the shadows anymore. Do you agree? Share your thoughts with me here! - Shawna
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12/6/2019 Don't set new year goals without reading this first {Discover the secrets of the ancients and top 8% of successful achievers]Read Now We’re at that time of year again, marking the end of an old cycle and the beginning of a new one. It’s said that every 6 in 10 people are inspired by this opportunity to begin again and will set resolutions. Here in our modern day western culture we seem to be oriented towards setting goals for healthier habits around lifestyle, money, and relationships or are looking to learn something new. My eyes are wide open to the fact that we are being bombarded by marketing messages designed to affirm any subconscious beliefs we may have that something is broken about us, while overtly selling us the highly coveted solutions that supposedly fix our problems. Although there are many high quality programs and services out there designed to support you on the quest for your best life, in truth, so much of what we see is only feeding our addiction to consumerism rooted in the fear of “not enough-ness”. So, with that said, and as a huge advocate for doing what lights you up inside, I haven’t come to provide you with a suggestion for a temporary fix or give a motivational rally cry in an attempt to force something that’s unnatural for you. My intention is to empower you with practical advice that can help you break through any fear based beliefs standing between you and your highest outcome. As well as teach you how this brilliant idea of setting and working on achieving goals is much older yet more mysterious than one would think, by…. 1. educating you on the historical facts (as I currently know them to be) around this subject of setting and reaching goals so you can be prepared for the journey ahead and yields ideal results. 2. sharing uncommon knowledge around the hidden higher meaning of this auspicious time regarding the old new discoveries about our potential for Spiritual growth. I promise, these fresh insights are going to turn your head around. (not in the poltergeisty possessed kind of way ;p) I mean it to be in the best way possible! Enjoy a nice cuppa tea, grab a pen and paper to take note, and let’s begin! Did you know…. According to research on the topic, 88% of people say they believe that individuals create their own reality. Yet, statistically speaking, of the people who pursue goals, the vast majority (92%) don’t actually achieve them. (most will give up before February) So why do only 8% of people reach their goals? We all have the same capacity to achieve success based on our actions and behaviors (this is how our personal reality takes form). What this statistic suggests to me is that 92% of goal getters are STUCK in the place behaviors originate – an old mindset – which looks a little something like this…. · Distrusting of others or change · Chronic negative thinking (lacking creative use of imagination) · Doubt in themselves, no plan or no confidence in a plan · Are afraid to fail, so don’t go ALL IN on their commitment to achieve the goal · Fear of the change that success will bring · Are trying to achieve success for the ‘wrong’ reasons · Lacking mental and physical resilience · Exhausted from the effort, no accountability = quit when it gets too difficult  *Take a moment to mark the top 3 patterns above that closely reflect what you’re most challenged with. Historically speaking…. More than 4k years ago, the ancient Babylonians were known to celebrate every new year with intentions to pay off debt, return borrowed objects, and remain loyal. Over 2k years ago, Caesar tinkered with the calendar to make January the first month of the year. Which was named after a two faced god, Janus, whose spirit inhabits doorways. One face looks back while the other faces ahead towards the future. The Romans made “sacrifices” to this deity (resolutions)to honor the new year. Which means that this time of inner reflection for outer renewal isn’t just a quirky part of our modern day lives, but it has ancient roots meant for a more meaningful life.  Image credit: the works of Alex Grey , Song of Vajra Being & Secret Writing Being as one image ::: Uncommon woo-knowledge alert ::: There’s a deeper meaning to life encoded within us that is activated at this time of year. Science has discovered, embedded within the genetic codes for our basic life functions, a natural beginning and ending to an instruction sequence. In a similar way to how one would capitalize the first letter of the first word in a sentence to denote the place to start, while ending with a punctuation mark. When the body reads what’s known as our start / stop codons, it acts on the instructions that follows. On the physical level, 3% of DNA accounts for the set of instructions to build proteins at any time throughout the year. So obviously, that’s not what makes this time is special. However, according to the wisdom found in our ancient oracle known as the iChing, as well as the more modern day teachings – the Gene Keys – it’s what’s found in our non-coding “Spiritual DNA” (formerly known as junk, making up more than 97% of our DNA) that’s said to contain the keys to access more of the unlimited potential of our Spiritual nature. Just like we can chart the movement of constellations in the heavens, you can mark your calendar by this oracle to determine many insights, including transitions into these natural endings and beginnings, set to be triggered each mid-January (for now). Because of this yearly transit, everyone is given an opportunity to truly renew oneself by elevating consciousness with a little extra support from the heavens. Which is why I believe we’re unconsciously driven to reflect on our desires before moving forward. Even if we don’t decide to act on them, an opportunity is always there for us. This is an Archetypal part of us that we’re growing into. It has its own yearnings, its own mission, its own way of seeing and responding to the world within and around it that’s paradoxically familiar but different from your old self. Embodying this part of you may even shift your mindset to see how it’s possible to overcome tough obstacles. If you’re feeling pressured to make a personal change, maybe it’s NOT because something is wrong with you, but rather that something more is wanting to be expressed through you and requires you to surrender. If you dare to defy the odds and transform your life, the following are a few insights into the success secrets of the top 8% of achievers, as well as my tips for aligning with your true nature. Top 4 habits of the most successful goal achievers… 1) They set goals that are · specific · challenging but not impossible · and in alignment with a higher overall vision 2) They’re committed to the outcome, not just “interested” · the vision should excite and inspire you 3) They’re open to feedback & being held accountable · working with a trusted advisor or coach 4) They avoid multi-tasking · trying to do too many things at once drains your energy · focus on one thing at a time / bite into small chunks that lead to the bigger vision Tony Robins once said, “People over estimate what they can do in a year, and underestimate what they can do in 5.” So don’t feel like a failure if you don’t see the fruits of your efforts right away. Re:alignment Bigger than setting a new year resolution, make this year an opportunity for you to reset the clocks and begin again with intentions to embody your most magnificent version of your TRUE self. It’s common to upgrade our phones, our operating systems, our appliances, even wardrobe…why not upgrade your life? What if, instead of settling back into your old pattern this coming new year, you were to activate your dormant potential? I’m not suggesting to be like someone else, maybe just more true to your Self. Use this time standing at the doorway with Janus – to reflect on your experiences this past year. Acknowledge the difficult challenges you faced, the big lessons you learned, and wisdom gleaned. First) Ask yourself: · What old patterns or unhealthy habits are you ready to transform? Next) consider what you want moving forward with what matters most in life. · What do YOU want to create for 2020? · What skills will you need to develop so to reach these goals? —– If you want to open up to what’s possible, you can use my easy to follow ENViSiONEERING process An ENViSiONEER does three things: 1. creatively visualizes the potential future, 2. thoughtfully engineers life by Divine design, 3. courageously sets off on an adventure to discover new lands as a pioneer. Let me help you get started building a strong foundation to achieve your goals this year as I walk you through my ENViSiONEERING process to help you get from struggle to freedom. This is automatically sent right to your inbox for free when you register at www.ShawnaPelton.com. It’s a great starting point for setting yourself up on your path for success. Try it for yourself, then let me know what you plan to do with your upgraded life! Cheers to you on a journey of Self-Actualization! With absolute faith in your ability to be transformed! xo – Shawna Pelton   Have you ever caught yourself in the midst of a negative obtrusive thought? I’m referring to the kind of thinking that feels like it takes hold of you as a prisoner to your deepest worries and resentments?
Where you:
Brain scientists have discovered that there’s an association between these negative neuro-patterns and the unconscious memories imprinted by our traumatic (or slightly dramatic) life experiences. When something in your current life triggers an embedded memory, it reactivates all of the old fear based feelings and beliefs associated with it, which then gives rise to unhealthy destructive behaviors. Essentially, it’s like bringing the past back to life in this present moment, while blaming how you feel on current events or making yourself out to be a bad person for the way you think or act (which is so not the case). Think of how images are captured onto film. In photography, film reacts to light and ‘transforms’ itself to record an image…. Called a “negative”. Then the image is transferred onto a canvas, called a picture. Our brain, like the film, reacts to emotions and transforms itself back onto our life experiences. Neuro-patterns are the resulting impressions, not the cause of the problem. When we don’t act to resolve the root (the narrative we created about life because of how we felt during an event) it can seem as if these negative patterns have control over us. Regardless of where, when, how or why you got them, or whether or not your recall experiencing anything that could have created your patterns, the good news is that the brain has an amazing ability to rewire itself. Meaning that these imprints are not hardwired as permanent fixtures. It is possible to create new pathways by design. As the great Buckminster Fuller once said, “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.” What does it take to create new patterns? If you respond in a different way to what triggers you, it can help override the old neural network. I know…. this is waaaaaayyyy easier said than done. But only at first. Often, the hardest part is catching yourself in the initial stage of reactivating old grief before getting carried away by it. Transformation involves learning then applying new skills in mindset and actions that generate a new response to old triggers. And learning is much more enjoyable (and effective) when we can have fun with it! It should come as no surprise to hear that playful behavior is shown to have positive effects on the brain and on our ability to learn. In fact, play functions as an important, if not crucial, manner for learning. Studies reveal a link between symbolic, pretend play and the development of skills. So you know that saying “fake it till you make it?” Turns out that it’s actually good advice, so long as you don’t deny what it is that you’re feeling in the process. What if…. Instead of continuing to abuse ourselves with judgmental negative BS (belief systems) we made a game out of catching ourselves in the act of being triggered? For example: Do you remember playing that game, hide and go seek? How thrilling it was to find who you were looking for, with a gratifying loud shout, “Gotcha, or tag, you’re it!” Experiment with this the next time you catch yourself when triggered. Recognize it comes from an unconscious old thought pattern, say:
Then identify the limiting belief (ex: I’m not good enough)…pretend that you’ve captured it: say
Once you’ve done that, instead of acting in the same old way you’ve always behaved which only reinforces the limiting belief, you can take a new action. Move your body, jump up and down to shake out the energy and sensations associated with feeling triggered. Sound silly? Good. It’s meant to. We take ourselves way too seriously sometimes, and playfulness is a missing part of our healing process. It’s about time we laugh into the depths of our darkness. For me, laughing at myself for how ridiculous I’ve sounded at times has brought enough light to shift my focus and change my view. In truth, there are many more practical ways we can heal. I think that what’s most important is to not get stuck on one thing or isolate yourself with the attitude of “I can do this by myself”. It’s always a good idea to align with a healer, therapy, or some proven process that you most resonate with that can help you gain the freedom you’re seeking. For more information on how you can create a positive change with Shawna as your guide, schedule a no-obligation conversation at www.ShawnaPelton.com/discoverycall
 Can you get behind the bold idea that every one of us is here on PURPOSE? Do you understand the reason for coming into this world, at this time, through your lineage, having the exact experience that you're having now?
The Divine doesn't create accidents. We are not prisoners of life, waiting for this wild ride to stop so we can get off and be free from it. We are participants in it... dare I say Creators of it. Rather than victims of our circumstances, we are powerful instruments of change. Your very presence causes a difference in the world. I want you to let that sink in. Like most things, "presence" falls on a spectrum. At one end, we're sleep walking through life, completely indoctrinated into the dark matrix, feeding it with our addictions to negativity. (Doubt that you're doing this? Try this thought experiement: if you're not dependent on suffering, then why perpetuate it?) On the flip side, we are Supernatural beings of light navigating the world with pure intention, certainty and definite of purpose. When people come to me because they feel uncertain, sick, lost, stuck or unhappy with life, it's usually because they've exhausted themselves trying to fit into a broken system that gave rise to a profoundly sick society. This very system we were born into is designed to be the shell we break through and grow out of so that we can contribute to and evolve society by applying the gifts and strengths we've gained through the process. It's not intended to be the box we grow into into. You don't feel like you belong here because the world you've been tring to fit in with is insane.... stop trying to find your peace and sanity within it and instead focus all of your energy on aligning with the reason you came here for so that you and our future generations can be set free by your very presence. Those who do this work will be deemed as heretics, woowoo, crazy, and be MISUNDERSTOOD by those who are too afraid or just not ready to see the light of truth. That's ok, it's not about what others will think of you. It's about falling in love with your authentic self, your life's purpose and mission --- which is bigger than what small minds can comprehend. We are designed to do this and are fully supported in this endeaver. All of this is revealed to us when we come into aligment; uniting our heart, mind, and body to form an instrument that is to be expressed by the Divine in us through everything we think, say and do. This is the key to working with, not against, the original blueprint encoded within our Spiritual DNA. (stop and read that last paragraph again) Our innate potential can be activated through a phenomena called "entrainment" when we stop fighting against our essential nature and learn how to tune into the channel that plays the song of our Soul, and harmonize with ourselves and others to form a symphony; a beautiful masterpiece. The funny thing about our essential nature is that is has the power to free us. It is in this place we feel most at peace with our lives and become one with the uni-verse (one rhythm/song) So, again I ask.... do you really want to fit in to a system that perpetuates discord, or would you rather learn how to sing in key with the song that you resonate with? I believe the answer is already obvious to you. With love, light and harmony - Shawna
(If you like this message, I'd love to hear your comments below and appreciate if you share it on social media!)  Feeling mentally, physically, emotionally EXHAUSTED?!? According to the Mayo Clinic, you're not alone. About 40% of workers report feeling this way on the job. (see the top 10 professions that are prone to burnout) Many of you have been telling me how stressed out you've been feeling lately, and that it's really taking a toll on your health, relationships, and emotional wellbeing. Let's use Gail, for example, who once owned a very unique gift shop in one of the most expensive areas for real estate in town. Where it was becoming increasingly harder for her to keep up with the high overhead and the demands of a growing business while balancing her health, family, work life, She was in the habit of saying "I'm so busy, I'm so busy, I'm so busy" anytime someone asked, "how are you?" Of course, what she really was saying was "I'm so stressed out and overwhelmed by my responsibilities that I'm afraid I may go down with this sinking ship because I can't see any way out and I don't know how or who to ask for help!" As a result, she drank, ate and spent too much, moved too little, enjoyed life less often, gained weight, and pushed people away with her aggressive attitude and stressed energy. Sound familiar? Gail didn't know how to escape this soul sucking situation, and what was once an exciting opportunity to fulfill a long held dream became heavy baggage filled with doubt, fear and resentment. This type of situation is a prime environment for limiting beliefs to creep in, like "I'm not good enough, I can't do this, I'll never get out of debt, maybe I'm not meant to be an entrepreneur. Which only leads to more of the same self-sabotaging behaviors. Of course I'm sympathetic to Gail's situation. Who wouldn't be. But I'm also a firm believer that we are NOT victims to our situations....but creators over our own life. What Gail didn't know was what most of have a hard time seeing when we're "in our own way" .... that the cause of burnout stems from our addiction to stress hormones that elevate when we're caught up in a vicious cycle of "busy work" which then triggers our learned unhealthy habits used for coping with life. Don't believe you could be addicted to stress? Try stopping your busy work and lifestyle habits for a week (without taking a vacation) and let me know how that works out for you. You'll find that it's not so easy to just quit being stressed. Busy work isn't what happens "to us", but comes as a result being oblivious to our unconscious motivations and distracted by things that either scream the loudest for our attention or are relatively easy but doesn't produce our desired result. (I'm personally guilty of doing this by starting household chores instead of engaging more in my online community...sorry you guys 😏) Here's the thing, every habit of thinking and doing produces an outcome of some sorts. So the habit of being busy is naturally going to create an overwhelming situation. The ANTIDOTE to busy work
If you're curious about what happened to Gail, you should know that she made the conscious decision to close up shop. But that wasn't a sad ending at all. In fact, after taking inventory, she realized the thing she loved the most about her shop (hosting small culinary events) could easily be run from home without the excess overhead. This choice freed up the time, energy and money needed to pursue her passion by taking on more skill development classes. She's happier, healthier and spends more quality time with her family. So how long will you wait to enjoy your life? Need help with taking inventory? I created this free life balance assessment so you can see what areas of your life are in need of the most attention. Let me know what you think in the commnents below! To your best life! xo - Shawna PS - My bf and I now enjoy taking very long walks with our dobie, Loki. This helps us connect with each other, feel good, and keep the dog happy all at once! PPS - People who took this asssessment also signed up for this free discovery call with me  Meet Loki! (and pretend I'm not looking disheveled ;p ) |
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